The expectations that come with adulthood

John Wafula Ojwang

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Adult expectations tend to shift away from the childhood expectations at the age of eighteen.

Once one turns 18, a lot of responsibilities are expected from them. Some parents will allow their kids to have their freedom at that age after they finish school. While others do not. But, young adults have to find the necessary tools that they need to navigate through their future. 

They are expected to know right from wrong when it comes to the law. For instance, according to the law and taken from Illinois Speeding Ticket – The Law Offices of Andrew Nickel, if one gets caught speeding on the road, they could face up to six months in prison, up to two years of probation and/or between $75 and $1,500 in fines. Class A misdemeanor aggravated speeding: If they are caught speeding 35 mph or more over the speed limit, one will be charged with a Class A misdemeanor. 

One should not hesitate to ask but also make their decisions carefully and wisely for choices have consequences. Parents have taught what to do and what not to do when it comes to certain situations. A person has probably made mistakes and gotten advice of the consequences of their actions.

Do not do things just because other people are doing them or justify their coolness. And also, do not feel pressured into doing anything. Those who do illegal things are being watched by the people, including the police, and a person’s mistakes may catch up to them. 

People should take their time with life and not rush or force things. That will come with time and hastening the process will just stir problems that will never be solved. Examples of this are forcing yourself into a friendship when you know it’s not the right way to go and feeling like you have to live up to others expectations.

Young adults, specifically 18 and 19 year olds, should get all of the tools that they need to succeed and they should not hesitate to seek any advice and not turn other advice down. Not everybody knows the answers and tools on how to navigate through life so they go to those who have dealt with the experiences that they are currently facing which is trying to figure out the next step in life. College, community, trade school, or anything else that you know you will love doing.

Others are lucky and keep all our childhood friends close throughout our lives, but not everyone can maintain those friendships. People change, especially through those transformative years between teenage-hood and adulthood. People make new friends and some of them forget about their old friends especially if they do not see them on a daily, weekly or at most, a monthly basis.

As I have mentioned before, not everybody has to know everything but they also have to be careful about the decisions they make.

So if paths diverge, do not fret. The life that we are living constantly involves fostering new friendships. It will take some time but you will eventually get to know one another better and you will develop a new friendship that if you are lucky enough to put in that effort and make time for them assuming they do the same for you, might last a lifetime.